Pam's Monthly Insights
November 2006
Hello friends,
Forgive me for being a few days late. October brought an unexpected health issue into my life. The good news is that after minor surgery last week I am now on the mend and soon will be better than new. So, to my faithful readers and new friends, thanks for your patience, welcome, sit back and enjoy.
Fall is here and the holidays are quickly headed our way. I've talked about Mercury retrograde many times before. We start this month with the little trickster causing communication, electronic and mechanical breakdowns. Do yourself a favor and wait until after Nov 20th to start your serious Christmas shopping and you'll do much better, especially if you are purchasing electronic equipment.
Thanks to all of you for tuning in to Sensing Murder last month. Discovery Channel has ordered six more episodes which we will begin filming in a few weeks! Then we will move right into filming season two. I've received so many questions about the show that I will address them in the Media section below. This month I'm going to talk about the five most common ways people hold themselves back and since this is the month of Thanksgiving, we are going to talk about the spiritual benefits of gratitude. I'd also like to share about my views on being psychic.
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In this issue:
- Quote of the Month
- Five Ways We Hold Ourselves Back
- Giving Thanks
- On Being Psychic
- Media-Sensing Murder
- Pam's Book Recommendation
- Signing Off
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Quotes of the month:
"He is a wise man who does not grieve for the things which he has not, but rejoices for those which he has."
~ Epictetus ~
"Blessed are those that can give without remembering and receive without forgetting."
~ Author Unknown ~
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Five Ways We Hold Ourselves Back
After a few years of life coaching, I've seen the same five problems trip people up and keep them from reaching their potential. Most people believe that we are victims of circumstance. I believe we are victims of our own limiting thoughts.
1. I Can't.
Those two little words can stop anyone dead in their tracks. The most successful people don't know those two words much less utter them out loud. Most importantly, successful people believe they CAN face any challenge in front of them. Can you imagine Oprah whining "I caaaan't do it." Next time you catch yourself saying "I can't" replace it with "I'll just have to try harder" or "I need to try another approach." No more excuses! As soon as you stop making excuses and listing all the reasons you can't do something you will start looking for answers and solutions. As soon as you change your attitude, you'll surprise yourself at how resourceful you actually can be. Overcoming obstacles is rewarding. Go for it!
2. Staying Inside your Comfort Zone
Sensing Murder came to life because Laurie and I were willing to put ourselves out there with no safety net. We both got the job because we were willing to take big risks, to put ourselves and our work on the line. Walking into an unknown case with unknown detectives with cameras rolling is nerve wracking, each and every time. Filming this show is uncomfortable and WAY outside my comfort zone. All of the people you see out in the world succeeding are taking risks. It's part of the deal. Success requires risk. I believe this is why shows like Dancing With The Stars and American Idol are so popular. We love to watch people stepping out of their comfort zones and challenging themselves.
3. Aim Too Low
Many people do reach for their dreams but they set the bar too low. Setting the bar too low might guarantee that you will reach your goal but it will keep you from reaching your full potential. If you don't reach higher you won't get higher. Let's say you want to get published. You have a choice. Submit your article idea to a small, unknown publication where you have a better chance at getting your article published or aim for a major magazine where the competition is stiff and the statistics are dreadful. When faced with this decision myself, I went for a major magazine (way back in the early 90's) because I figured it would be more satisfying and fulfilling to make it into a larger respected magazine. If you really want it and believe you can do it, you will eventually. A few rejection letters can't stop you... only you can stop yourself by deciding to give up or by dropping the bar too low.
4. Over Plan
Once you've decided on a goal, you might be tempted to over plan. Many people fall into this trap. Making plans and taking steps to achieve your goals is great. The problem creeps in when you expect things to go only according to plan and reject spontaneous situations that seem to conflict with your well laid plans. It's important to let God or the Universe (or whatever your version of divine wisom is), step in and help you reach your goals. Things can happen so much better, quicker and easier than you ever could have meticulously planned. I recently read an interview with the popular new talk show host, Rachel Ray, who said "my life has turned out so much more fun than I ever could have planned it myself."
5. I'm Just Not Creative
If you're alive, you're creative. Everything you see around you was created by someone; your furniture, your home, your food, your clothes, your untensils, your toothbrush, your cell phone, your car, etc. You get the picture. Everything in our world today exists because someone first imagined it. Creating is not just about painting fine art or music or writing books. You are constantly creating. Artists, musicians, designers and anyone else you view as "creative" have all had training. Yes, it may come easier for some but you can't compare yourself to them until you have tried it and have undergone the same training yourself. Give yourself credit for your own ideas and spontaneous thoughts.
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Giving Thanks
How grateful are you? Try this quiz for some fun insight. http://beliefnet.com/section/quiz/index.asp?sectuibID=&surveyID=105
Being grateful shouldn't be a one day affair every November. The more you are grateful for the more you will receive on a daily basis. The more you find to be grateful for in your life, the more peaceand happiness you will find. I know it sounds simplistic and many of my coaching students resist, but I have found that gratitude can turn around almost any negative sitatuion. For some reason an attitude of gratitude takes practice and doesn't come naturally for most of us. The practice of gratitude is well worth the effort.
Anyone you are having difficulties with will soften when you show them gratitude. Even if you don't tell them of your gratitude, it will shift the energy between you in a positive way. Difficult boss? Thank him for that last assignment or day off. Find something you can honestly appreciate about him... he did hire you and give you an opportunity, after all. The change in perception will reward you in stunning ways. Feel like your mateis taking you for granted. Rather than complain and tell them you feel unappreciated, show gratitude to them. Write a note or email expressing your gratitude for the small things they do for you and you will witness a positive shift. Kids driving you crazy? Again, think about how lucky you are to have them and that they are safe and healthy and God has blessed you with them. Tell them how lucky you are to have them in your life and watch them change before your very eyes.
Here's a fun exercise for November. Let's make this entire month one of gratitude. If you start tonight, Nov 4th, you can think of four things you are grateful about your life as it is right now. For example. I am grateful I have a roof over my head and a warm bed to sleep in every night. I'm grateful for my spouse and children. I'm grateful for my health, etc. Tomorrow, Nov 5th, think of five things to be grateful for. By the end of the month you will be listing 30 things. It's okay to repeat. It's important to be sincere. This can change your life.
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On Being Psychic
Many people are surprised when I say that everyone is psychic to some degree. I just don't believe there are only a few special "chosen" ones who possess some mysterious and mystical ability. The ability is certainly stronger in some but I compare this to any given talent. I like to compare it to playing the piano. Anyone can sit and learn how to play a song on the piano given some practice and instruction. Some will have to work harder and practice more and some will find that it comes naturally and will find their passion.
One misconception people have about me is that I am just naturally this way. Actually, I have spent ten years honing my skills, training, practicing and learning how to improve the qaulity of the information I receive. A remote viewer I admire, refers to it as mental martial arts. I agree. Most people don't realize how exhausting this work can be, similar to taking a rigorous exam, your brain and body need a break after exerting so much mental energy. When I was first learning, I thought that what you got was what you got. I didn't realize I had any control over the process. I've come a long way since then and now teach students how to pull out the best information and the most useful details. Check out my website for class or retreat information. www.pamcoronado.com/Appearances.htm
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Media- Sensing Murder
Thanks to all who faithfully watched our show during the month of October. Your letters and support and appreciated. I've also received many questions so I will attempt to answer the most asked here. All seven episodes that have been filmed have also aired, so expect reruns. The good news is that Discovery Channel has ordered six more episodes to begin filming in a few weeks. They are also talking about season two. I will let you know when to look for the new shows.
The most frequently asked question is if there will be follow up shows. Yes, this is our hope. As cases develop and new information comes forward, we hope to put together some follow up shows for you. I can't tell you here, but there are promising developments in two of our cases and arrests are expected to follow. As for how the show is made. Discovery channel felt it was very important to maintain the integrity of the show by keeping Laurie and I sequestered during filming. We were carefully kept apart while on location and had no idea where we were going until we had arrived. We were simply told to pack warmly and producers brought our on-camera wardrobes. Laurie and I were not allowed internet, email or newspapers. Hotel staff and drivers were instructed to speak to us only about the weather. We weren't even given the victim's names until after we were finished filming. We do meet the detectives for the first time on camera but are kept seperate from the other detective. Laurie had no idea what I was getting and I had no idea what she was getting. We are both debriefed by both detectives once filming is complete so we can get some measure of closure before taking on another case. Renactments. Yes, they are a wonderful representation of what I am seeing in my head. I work directly with the photographers to help them recreate and capture my visions. Laurie does the same but we don't know what they other did completely until we see the show air the first time.
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Pam's Book Recommendation
This is an important book, written by a parapsychologist I respect and consider a friend. Pamela Rae Heath and her partner Jon Klimo called
Suicide: What Really Happens in the Afterlife?
This provocative study explores what happens to those who commit suicide. Drawing on communications from the spirits of more than 100 "successful" suicides, it offers an intriguing lok at what the dead themselves say about suicide, it's repercussions, and their experiences in the afterlife. Bringing together the channeled messages of three types of suicide- traditional suicide, assisted suicide, and the suicide of mass murder adopted by terrorists- the book covers a wide range of topics, including why people commit suicide, what it takes to cross over, adjustment problems, what suicides would say to those left behind, and what they would tell others thinking of taking their own lives. Additionally, the book conveys powerful messages from suicide bombers, warning potential terrorists of the serious karmic consequences that await them. For anyone contemplating suicide or euthanasia, the book offers a profound, sometimes unsettling, insight into the ramifications of these acts.
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Thanks to all of you who have written to say nice things about my newsletter. I hope you continue to enjoy it and it brings fulfillment or joy to you in some way.
Love, Pam
